For years I had taken breaks from drinking for pre-determined and relatively short amounts of time (ranging from a month to . . . a day), primarily as a way to keep myself “in check.”
I'My thinking at that point was that if I could grimace my way through such breaks, then, whew, good news, there was no reason to not keep drinking!
At that time I still thought of drinking as something that was a requirement to live a life of of joy and connection, and of not drinking as dull and punishing. And then when I arrived at a particularly challenging period in life, my Spidey senses went on high alert and I sensed that drinking during that time would very possibly not end well. So I decided to quit “for the time being,” without knowing how long it would last.
Without even meaning to, for the first time I gave myself a shot at discovering all the ways in which my fears had been unfounded. I gave myself a chance to see all the ways in which life was even – dare I say it – better sans booze. In a nutshell, I gave myself the opportunity to see that sobriety most definitely did not suck.
For decades I had been swimming in the waters of self-improvement via books, courses, therapy and anything else I came across that I thought might help me to feel better about myself and my life. While I had taken steps forward, it was only in sobriety that I realized I’d been applying the gas and the brakes at the same time by continuing to drink and use other methods of numbing and checking out of the very life experience I’d been desperately trying to make better.
No one was more surprised than I was at those revelations.
And now, years later, I can report that the evidence for sobriety not sucking has only grown stronger over time.
My own sobriety has included parting ways with both alcohol and cigarettes, looking a 30+ year eating disorder square in the eyeballs, and coming out as queer (more about that here).
In addition to my lived experience, I am a Certified Professional Coach, Certified Professional Recovery Coach, She Recovers Designated Coach, and a Certified Holistic Health Coach.
I also firmly believe in the healing powers of both profanity and humor.
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